When you’re in your 20’s, you reach this point of questioning. You begin to question just about everything that’s happened (or will happen) in your life up to that very point.
You wonder if you’re progressing on the right track and in the right direction. You question if the career you’re in or working toward is really what you want to be doing for the rest of your life. You even wonder if you shouldn’t be further along in your search for a wife/husband, 2.5 kids, and one of those sweet little white picket fences you’ve heard so much about. In this mindset of constant wondering—and it can last for a considerable time, depending on the individual—those questions you’re battering yourself with can wear you down mentally and emotionally. Because once the questions and doubt have crept into your mind, stress and the accompanying side effects come following swiftly behind. Suddenly, you’re stressed to the max (not the Saved by the Bell guy), unhappy, and contemplating blowing your whole life up to start from scratch.
The root of this barrage on your psyche can come in a few forms. Maybe it’s as simple as you being unhappy with where you are in life and wanting to do and be better. Maybe you realize you’ve made a mistake in your choice of career or partner and that sets you down a path of self-examination and wandering. Or maybe you’ve made the misstep of comparing yourself and your life against more successful people who are around your same age. Regardless of the reason, the feeling that you’re not where you need to be, with who you need to be with, or doing what you’re supposed to be doing can be a daunting feeling that takes the mind hostage and rattles our feelings something fierce. Really, we’re beating ourselves up…but for what reason?
While it’s easy for us to be discouraged and even disappointed in ourselves and the choices we’ve made in our life so far, it’s important to remember that nothing about our future is ever set in stone. Instead, the future is adaptable and fluid. It shouldn’t scare us because it is completely reliant on us to even come to fruition. If we’re not happy with where we are in this life or how far we’ve “progressed”, we can begin to make the changes necessary to bring ourselves to a place of happiness and contentedness. Can we do it all at once? No, but we can begin to make small decisions and claim small victories so that we begin to build our life to where we want it to be. We can build the great big, wonderful reality we want by working brick by brick, dream by dream, victory by victory until we’ve built something worthy of our own satisfaction.
It’s no secret that life has a way of discouraging us at times, but if we can keep in mind that our story is one of untold goodness as of yet and if we can ignore the comparisons to others we want to make, we can decide to make our future the one we want to have; a future we can be proud of because it’s ours and ours alone. It just takes planning an attack of smaller proportions until we’ve accumulated enough victories to make our happiness and satisfaction a reality. Really, it’s all entirely up to us.
So if you’re unsatisfied, if you’re discouraged, ignore where you think you should be or where society says you should be and begin to make the changes you want to see, building your future into what you want it to be. You have that power; now’s the time to put it to good use.
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