It’s easy to see the title of this post and go right in to, “YOU DON’T KNOW ME, COPELAND!!!” mode, and if you did, I can’t blame you. But as I type these words, I feel the glow of possessed realizations and answered questions. I have discovered the secret glue that holds our singleness suspended there in the metaphorical space of our lives. You can scoff and you can throw your mocking laughs my way, but I have the answer you may be looking for.
Each of us is different and each of us possesses a number of special traits that make us who we are. And though some of us lean the same way in our tastes of this and that, each of us has our own romantic past and path that has lead us to where we stand now as unattached, single people. Yet, though we each have our own purpose for our relational standing at this moment in time, we are all single for the exact same reason.
Would you like to know what that reason is? I’ll share it with you if you really want to know. Okay, fine. Here it is:
You are single simply because you choose to be.
Go ahead and laugh at the simplicity of this truth, but once its vibrant honesty has settled around you, you will appreciate what we have learned here today.
Some choose to refrain from having a relationship and that is, of course, more than fine. I am in that camp myself.
But this truth is for those who want a relationship yet don’t have it as of now. They want to be in a partnership with another human being because they want to feel connected and cared for in a romantic way. It’s a desire they have for their life.
You may think I’m crazy for stating the above, but when you consider it, you may realize I’m on to something. Being single is your own choice because any of us could lower our requirements or standards and be with someone who we feel isn’t right for us. We have that option if it’s what we really wanted to do. We could accept someone’s, anyone’s hand and be in a relationship if we so chose. I mean, anyone can find a romantic partner if they don’t have a standard to meet. It just takes a willing mind and/or body. We just wouldn’t be happy or satisfied with such a lacking union, right?
But we don’t jump into such rushed romance because we have a certain criteria a person has to meet before we’ll consider them as a possibility. We have a level of behavior, looks, personality, and preferences we will not dip below. And that is a very, very good thing.
You may feel lonely and even incomplete because you’re without a romantic partner right now, but I encourage you to remember that though life can be lonely and the feelings may not be positive in this moment, it’s better to wait for someone who’s able to come close to what you want rather than settle for someone who isn’t able to fulfill anything of what you want. You’re worth the wait for something good; I promise you that. So uphold those standards you’ve set for yourself and know that your fortitude will be rewarded when the time is right.
Your being single isn’t a curse; it’s a choice you’re making for your own good. Remember that and keep the faith that you will someday have all the relational happiness you can possibly handle.