A Letter to the Good Guys

Dear Good Guys,

To be honest, this letter is hard to write. I find myself conflicted because I once counted myself as a faithful member of your legions. But over my time, I’ve broken too many hearts, been too selfish, and caused too much damage. However, I find solace in the fact that so many of you still exist to make up for the transgressions of my past. You are left to give our kind a good name, and for this I remain thankful.

You’ve found the courage, the tenacity to remain honorable and diligent in your showing of respect to women, God, and life in general. You are patient and kind, and when something is asked of you, you do it with an unselfish smile. You’re the guys who still hold open doors and pay for meals. You’re the guys who respect a woman’s wish to wait for the physical aspect of a relationship, and though it isn’t always easy, you realize that her needs should forever come before your own. Sure, you have desires and you have wants, but your gentlemanly ways are what’s hoped for and counted as blessings in these days of sexual conquests and dirty deeds.

I don’t mean to carry on. My only hope today is to offer you encouragement in your goodly ways. Often times, you are seen as “less-than-manly” because you refuse to brag about your conquests (because they are nonexistent) and in that aspect, your frustration can grow. But remember that you are what’s wanted by women in these times. They desire a man who is manly enough to respect her from head to toe while showing honor for everything else that she is. They want a man who is kind and gentle, who won’t simply love and leave them, but desires the kind of eternal love and connection they do. Maybe you’ve been burned in the past and maybe you no longer believe your good guy ways are of use, but I beg you to keep the faith and march on. Your kind is wanted and your kind is needed.

Too many of us were once a part of your movement, only to fall off when we began to put ourselves and our wishes ahead of those around us. I, for one, am sorry to have let you down, brothers. I apologize for sullying your good and Godly name. But my shortcomings have only shown you in a brighter, more gracious light. In comparison, you are the knights of courtesy and respect. And for that, I only wish the best for you.

Lastly, I sincerely thank you for continuing your journey in faith and love. If I am at all lucky, my daughter will find one of your kind and keep him for herself forever.
You have my respect and you have my appreciation. You are the good guys, and you are everything right in this world.

Thank you for being you.

Sincerely,

Cory

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6 comments
  1. Jazz Brice said:

    I appreciate the “good guys” as much as the next, but what about the guys who aren’t just sort of “fighting to good fight to wait for the women’s gentle libido to catch up” and actually have a desire to wait THEMSELVES, because they believe it’s what ultimately most honoring to the woman and to God. Because I’ll be honest, I’ve had a guy literally have to pull me off of his body while we were kissing and tell me that we couldn’t do what I wanted in that moment, because he respected me. Now THAT’S really good guy, in my opinion.

    The girl should also respect the guy if HE wishes to wait (which DOES happen, believe it or not! Not all guys are stereotypically sexual, and even the one who do in fact have those desires can still ultimately want to wait for other reasons). It’s about mutual respect, character, honoring the other person and above all honoring God. May we all be so “good”.

    • Nicole said:

      I agree with you in everything you said. I’ve had the same thing happen to me–and though we didn’t work out, I respect him more than any other guy I know, and he doesn’t even know it. Thank you so much.

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