There’s a movie about to be released that’s based on comedian Steve Harvey’s best selling book, “Act Like a Lady, but Think Like a Man”. The premise or goal of the book is to teach women how to gain the upper hand over men by teaching them how and why men think the way they do. I’ve never read the book, but watching the trailer for the upcoming movie, I couldn’t help but think about that concept and the advantages and disadvantages of such a idea. And then I began to consider how much of a shame it is that books like this have to be written.
A woman is instructed to “think like a man” so that she can figure out what a guy really does or doesn’t want. Why? Because we’ve come to a point where playing of “games” is so rampant that the concept of fixing it is made into a book, movie, and God knows what else. But do you know how we could all fix this big mess? BY BEING HONEST WITH EACH OTHER ABOUT HOW WE FEEL!
We play our relationship games because we’re afraid of letting our true feelings or (even worse) intentions show (I’m saying “we” because I have been the scumbag that assaulted young ladies with mind games. But then again, I’ve also been beaten to a pulp by them myself so…). It’s a commonplace method of thinking that we aren’t allowed to let someone know how we feel about them too soon in the dating process because that would obviously make us seem desperate and clingy. POPPYCOCK! There is not a single thing wrong with being forthright and honest with someone you’re interested in. Do you like that girl and legitimately feel that you two would be a good and natural fit? TELL HER. Do you want to know how a guy feels about you because his signals are mixed and you aren’t quite sure where he is mentally? ASK HIM AND REQUIRE AN ANSWER.
We demand honesty and truth from those we are romantically involved with and they deserve the same. It’s a really simple concept if we’d all just agree to drop the charades and be upfront with each other. Yes, there’s a chance we could be hurt in the process. But you know what? Love is a gamble and completely worth the chance. I promise.
Last thing: if you’re one of these people (male and female alike) who enjoy playing these little games while making guys/girls work for your attention, grow up. Your pettiness is not revered, nor is it enjoyed. If you can’t be in a relationship without conjuring up some little game for your significant other to play, stay out of a relationship until you’re mature enough to handle it.
A women shouldn’t have to try to “think like a man” and vice versa. If we’re courageous enough to put ourselves and the truth out there, we can be done with these petty games forever. And that, my friends, is a lovely thought indeed.