What Women Want (Part II)
Every now and then, I like to write something that will garner a fair number of death threats. From the first part of this post on what women want, to my posts on how to get a boyfriend, to my attempt at addressing feminism; I’ve been known to stir the anger of women every now and then. This post will be no different.
I do this not because I’m a glutton for punishment, but because I like to help my fellow man out whenever I can. And since I’ve learned a thing or two about women in my travels (just kidding; I’ve never been anywhere), I like to share this attained knowledge from time to time so that other guys will have a better understanding of women and how their crazy brilliant minds work. This is that.
Quick note: Ladies, if you’re wanting to sent angry-worded letters in response to this post, please forward them to me at LA-LA-LA-I-CAN’T-HEAR-YOU@pleasedon’thurtme.com. Please and thank you.
Let’s get to it. Behold, five things a woman wants, whether she’ll admit it or not.
She Wants to be Able to Rely on You
Reliability is key in any relationship…especially in one involving the fairer sex (that would be women). She wants to know that when that hooker she hates at work/school/the sorority house is mean to her, she can call you up to vent; it’s important to her. She wants to know that when she’s sick, you’ll be there to take good care of her and make her feel better (the fact that you’re probably not a trained medical professional is neither here nor there).
In short, she’s not going to want to let you be her man (yes, let you…) if she can’t rely on you to be there when she needs you.
I hope you wrote that down. It’s important.
She Wants Trust
It takes a lot for a girl to trust a guy. Why? Because there are too many of our kind who like to take advantage of a girl to get the things they want (these types of guys are known as douchebags). So make a point of showing her she can trust you; leave no doubt in her mind that you are faithful to her 10000000000% of the time.
And equally important is the fact that she wants you to trust her. Don’t question her constantly for no reason. Unless she blatantly gives you a reason not to give her your trust, do what you can to show her you aren’t worried about her running around on you.
However, if she abuses that trust, cut her off and talk bad about her to everyone you know. JUST KIDDING! But seriously…
She Wants Stability
Most women that I know/have known/won’t ever talk to me again care very little for material possessions (or so they say…). You know what they do want? They want a guy who is stable and secure. They don’t want a dude who isn’t sure of what he wants so he’s constantly threatening to break up with them and what not. She wants to know that most of your personal issues are worked out so they aren’t constantly interfering in your relationship with her.
If you’re dealing with things, don’t get in a relationship expecting her to fix you. It doesn’t work that way (same to you, ladies). Figure out your issues beforehand, and once they’re all worked out, then find the lady you can be solid-as-a-rock for (and I’m not just talking about your muscles, you big lug).
She Wants Respect
I’ve written about this about a hundred times, but I do that because it’s important. Any girl worth pursuing is one that wants to be respected. She wants you to act like a gentleman and treat her like a lady. She wants to know that you don’t talk about her behind her back or lie to your little buddies about what you two do or do not do on your dates (I’m referring to sex and stuff).
Even though this want of a woman seems to be less and less prevalent, I’ll continue to preach its merits because it’s THAT important.
Respect her or just leave her alone. It’s simple enough.
She Wants to be Wanted
Even though we don’t admit it as readily, we men want to be wanted. It’s just human nature. So if we big, burly, manly men have a secret desire to be wanted, how much more does a woman?
I don’t mean “wanted” in the sexual sense (that’s fairly obvious since we’re dudes), but in the “I want to be with you” sense. A woman wants to know that her guy wants her around. She wants to know he isn’t going to deny that he’s with her. She wants to know that her man is proud to call her his own.
Use these five little tips to your advantage in your courtship and you’ll have your lady feeling like she’s on top of the world. If not, well that’s what you get for listening to a guy who titles his posts after Mel Gibson movies.
Actually, never mind; I stand by my advice with a steady resolve (this time).
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You sir, are a genius and an asset to the online community. Can I add to the respect thing? “be the guy that your girlfriend is proud to show her dad, and be the boyfriend her dad is proud to know.” You do that and she will be yours forever. It’s so tough not being physical, but what I’m doing with my future girlfriends is no open mouth kissing and no spooning. Those are my favorite things to do but it is what always leads me to disrespecting one of God’s princesses. I believe that if my future gf(whomever it is) and I abstain and instead spend that time talking and getting to know one another, we will know more about each other in three months than most couples do in three years.
Travis,
You could not be more right. I think you’ve made a wise choice, and I know your future gf will most likely feel the same way.
Thanks for your support, brother. It’s appreciated.
-C
Why would this make females mad? I personally think it is all super legit and I wish guys would realize these things. But most don’t..
From my experience, most women don’t enjoy a man taking a shot at guessing what they want haha Mostly I’m just having a little tongue-in-cheek fun.
And thank you for reading!
-C
Love this a lot!
Thanks, Sarah!
You hit the proverbial nail on the head with this one, Cory. Great work; thanks for sharing!
Thank you, Elena! I appreciate it.
-C
I think respect is more of something that men want. Women do want some respect, but more so than that we just want to feel loved. If we feel loved, then we’ll respect the man that loves us. A Christian girl will submit to a godly man who loves her just as much as Christ loves the church. That love is agape, that love is sacrificial. I think a lot of other things come secondary to that. Yeah, we do set benchmarks for the guy we’ll end up with, but it’s that Christlike love that will truly win us over.
Yes, You’re absolutely right, but thats also a big way a guy can show love for a girl is by respecting her. That’s what girls always remember the most is how a past boyfriend disrespected them and their bodies, and they associate that with not loving them.
This should be renamed “what people want”. Unless you mean to imply that men don’t want trust, reliability, security, and sexual attraction in their relationships…
I just started reading your blog, and I like it!… although I don’t ALWAYS agree (that’s boring anyways). I do agree with this post though… I would add that stability to me not only means that a guy knows what he wants in the relationship, but also in life. I’m not sure if you’ve commentated on this previously, but guys (people, for that matter) who lack ambition and drive in life absolutely drive me crazy… and ending that rant. To the girl who said that men want respect more than women: if a women does not want/demands respect, she probably doesn’t respect herself. And “Christlike love” is all about respect, sister.