Ohhhh, females. I feel for you. I really do. This whole life is unfair to your kind. Not only do you have to deal with that vicious monster known as the “monthly visitor”, but you also have to do the whole pregnant thing; and just those things alone are enough to drive a sane person cray-cray. Men got off so easy. You have my sympathies. Really.
But that’s not all! We men get special considerations and treatment when it comes to romance too. What happens when a man confesses his penchant for the lovely and romantic sides of life, searching for a faithful wife and eternal love? He’s considered to be a “sensitive” man who understands the needs of a woman. He’s even seen as a man that a woman would be lucky to have and to hold. But is the reverse true? No way! If a girl focuses her time and energy on finding a husband and/or love, she’s seen as “desperate” and “lonely”…maybe even “boy crazy”. Totally unfair, you guys. I’m on your side here.
This brings me to the main question of the day:
If a girl likes a guy, is it acceptable for her to pursue him?
I want to say that the answer is an easy one. I do. I wish I could—but it’s not. Why? Because some things just aren’t done, woman! Now, I know there are some of you out there that are literally spitting at the screen right now in hatred for me and my views, but stick with me. I (sometimes) know what I’m talking about (probably).
It is my deeply held belief that a woman—any woman—should be pursued. She is worthy of the attention and effort a man should provide in his pursuit of her and her heart. You may find this mindset to be archaic, but the truth is, I believe most of you would agree with me. A woman is—quite literally—a gift from God. Yet, this gift isn’t to be assumed for possession, but rather respectfully approached with deliberate concentration. It’s a gift that must be earned—just like Simba’s birthright! (No, I didn’t just compare women to The Lion King….okay, maybe I did. Moving on…)
Now, with all that being said, what happens when a young lady just isn’t getting pursued the way she wants to? THEN is it okay for her to round up the bloodhounds and set out on a hunt? Eh…
In today’s post-modern world, women are seen as equals now more than ever. Just let me warn you: men like to be pursued, but only up to a certain point. Yes, it’s cute for a girl to let a fella know she’s interested, but when she starts asking him out on specific dates, opening his door, and paying for his meals, he’s probably going to feel emasculated. It’s just man’s nature (insert Tim “The Tool Man” Taylor grunt here).
But what do you do when you think a guy is interested in you, but he’s not making a move even though you really want him to because oMg hE’s A tOtAl hOtTiE aNd YoU wAnT tO bE hIs GiRlFrAnD? You mean besides just walking up to him and saying, “Hey…I like you. Do what you want with that information” (because that’s just too embarrassing, CORY!!!)? Pull a Summer and just go make-out with your Tom in the copy room (I’M KIDDING!). It’s easy: if you’re interested, show him. Talk to him, laugh at his jokes, smile at him, etc. If a guy is halfway intelligent, he’ll pick up on your interest (‘cause you guys are totally obvious by the way—even when you think you aren’t). Hopefully, if he’s interested, he’ll make that move you’ve waited so long for. If he isn’t interested, he isn’t interested. Accept it, and focus your attention and energy elsewhere.
In the end, remember that you’re worthy of a proper pursuit. You’re worth his deliberate concentration. It’s okay for him to be the one to ask you out. It’s even okay for him to be the one to ask for a second, and a third, and a fourth date. Let him pursue you, and you’ll find out just how interested he is.
Let him pursue you, and you’ll realize just how worthy of that attention you really are.
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