How to Make Her Feel Special

Every now and then, I like to do what I can to help my fellow man out. And while it’s no secret that I’ve had a failed relationship or two (or seven), the truth is that I believe I know how to treat a lady. Through many, many, many trials of error, I’ve taught myself the ways to make a young lady feel special and wanted—at least I hope so. It’s really not very hard if you just put a little thought and effort into it; it can be fairly simple actually.

While I am no expert on the female brain or how such a magnificently confusing mechanism works, I do have a few ideas on how to make that special little lady in your life feel even more special. Yes, it is possible—kinda like when Devon Sawa smiled at Icebox, and she melted right out of her cleats and shoulder pads (Little Giants reference for…the…win!).

So, I’m here to share a few tips with you guys. Follow this list, and I guarantee she’ll be wearing your proverbial letter jacket for the foreseeable future. Quick note: most of these are better suited for when you’re already in the throes of a relationship with a young lady. Otherwise, tailor them to your own needs.

Regardless and forthwith, I present to you, “Cory Copeland’s Guide to Making Her Feel Special”:

Share Yourself with Her
I could literally feel your eyes roll from here…but stick with me. A female likes to feel included in her man’s life. That’s a given. But let’s take it a step further, and not only share the big parts of your life with her, but the small, intimate things that make you the wonderful man that you are. Send her a few links to your favorite songs from the YouTube; invite her over to watch your favorite movie on DVD (“Saving Private Ryan” IS an acceptable choice; anything with Meryl Streep IS NOT); lend her some of your favorite books. Not only are you sharing your favorite things with her—which will make her feel wanted—but you’re also giving her a more in-depth view of who you are as a person. This is a good thing.

Smile at Her
Again, this seems like a simple task, but sometimes guys forget to alert their face that they’re happy. Want her to feel like Julie the Cat when that goober-looking goalie from the varsity team started paying her attention (D3 anybody? Anybody?)? Smile when you see her. When she enters a room you’re already in and she catches your eye, smile at her. She’ll smile back, and you’ll make her feel all warm and cuddly on the inside (unless she’s still mad at something you did earlier, in which case you’re on your own). Again, this is a good thing.

You Like Her? Tell Her
This seems like an easy enough idea, but it usually isn’t. Usually, once we’ve allowed the female to know we’re interested in her, we feel she should assume the same moving forward. And to us, that makes sense. But the female mind likes to be assured, and done so often. So if you like this sweet little lady, tell her. If you’re sitting there watching a movie or something, just look over at her, smile, and tell her that you do, indeed, still think she is the greatest thing since Wendy Peffercorn. This can only cause good things to happen in your relationship*.
*Note: Only do this if you actually like the girl. If you don’t anymore, don’t lead her on. Be a man, and tell the truth.

Call Her…on the Phone
Yes, I realize texting is the best thing ever invented, but sometimes a girl likes to hear her man’s voice in her ear (that reads creepier than I intended). Not only will she appreciate you taking the time to call her, but she’ll also know that she means more to you because you’re actually making a tangible effort in the relationship. Just don’t do that whole, “You hang-up. No, YOU hang-up” thing; it’s annoying/disgusting.

Send Her Hand-Written Letters through the Mail
This is like the mighty Mecca of romantic gestures. In fact, I tweeted something to this affect last week, and nearly the whole Western hemisphere retweeted it. Why? Because girls like getting mail! Actually…everybody does. And if it’s a hand-written letter crafted by a guy who is genuinely making an effort to woo his lady beyond their initial meeting, it will mean even more. So take a few minutes to write out a thoughtful letter to her. Lick the envelope, put the Elvis commemorative stamp on it, do the whole bit. Then send it to her, and wait. In a couple of days, you will be placed on a whole new pedestal in her life. She will appreciate you making such a grand—yet simple—gesture. I am guaranteeing it right now!

These few tips should get you guys started for now. Like I said, it’s really a simple concept: treat her the way you would want to be treated if you were a girl. Wait…that’s a little twisted, even for me. Never mind. Look, just be a genuine gentleman, and remember that a woman’s heart is won within the details of your courtship.

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